This is a personal entry for my 30-day Trusting Myself challenge, part of Seth Godin's #Trust30 project, inspired by Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Today's Challenge:

Speak what you think now in hard words, and tomorrow speak what tomorrow thinks in hard words again, though it contradict every thing you said today. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Imagine your future self, ie, you 10 years from now. If he/she were to send you a tweet or text message, 1) what would it say and 2) how would that transform your life or change something you're doing, thinking, believing or saying today?

Today's entry:

I'm sorry, but I just can't bring myself to finish off #Trust30 by writing a fictional Tweet from the future. It just feels wrong, and we already covered our 5-year-future self on Day 8. No offense to the author of the prompt – I realize these were in no particular order, and I probably would've eaten it up on Day 3.

Emerson's quote caught my eye, though. I'm a stubborn person (people I've known might use other words), and I spent a lot of my youth refusing to change, because that was somehow a betrayal to my "true" being.

Unfortunately, I couldn't see that there was a huge difference between my habits and my core ideals. As a scientist, I eventually started having to admit that sometimes the evidence for my way being the best way was pretty thin. Sometimes, the evidence quite clearly pointed to the opposite of my way being the right way. So, I learned to listen. Or, at least, I'm learning to listen.

It wasn't always my way or the highway. Sometimes, it was my way that needed to hit the road.

It's Emerson's "hard words" that I struggle with. How can we speak with conviction, knowing that we may discover we're wrong 10 years (or 10 days) down the road? We see the extreme in politics every day – people who shout with absolute certainty about their views, only to shout with absolute certainty about the opposite view a week later, because the first view was inconvenient to their political party. If you think this is a partisan issue and that only the other team does it, then you've already missed the point.

How do we speak with passion and conviction, all the while knowing that our perceptions are tragically flawed? I wish I had an easy answer. I completely understand how people fall into the trap of comfortable dogma. Believing a lie is much easier than doubting the truth every single day.

I think the answer is that this is simply the human condition – all we have is imperfect knowledge and subjective perceptions. We can do our best, speak the truth as we know it, and try to stay open to new possibilities, we can accept dogma and never stray from it, or we can curl up in a hole and never open our mouths. Given the options, there's only one choice I can live with.

29 Jun –

Your last paragraph says it all. Way to end the challenge!! Take care.

Peace, Nico


29 Jun – Dr. Pete

Thanks, Nico, and thanks for all of your support and enthusiasm during the challenge. Meeting new people has been one of the best parts of #Trust30.


29 Jun – Rich Perrotti

Pete: The final blog for Trust30? You did it "your way," and I'm glad that you did! Well said. I frequently ask my classes, would you rather be right or would you rather be happy? I could write a book with their variety of responses and reasons given.

I think I'll choose happy (though it's not always the easiest nor most convenient choice.)

Namaste.
Rich


29 Jun – Gary Lougher

I often use the truth that we are doing and saying today will one day become outdated as a reason to challenge everything...in a constructive way. It's the process of innovation. On the path to being wrong, much is learned. The earth was flat until somebody just "had" to know if that was true.

And for your consideration...I think "stubborn" gets a bad rap sometimes.

Thanks Dr. Pete!


30 Jun – Miriam Gomberg

Pete, great post. I did not have time to do this one today and loved your take on it. The best part of participating in #trust30 has been reading peoples interesting and heartfelt posts. Thanks, Miriam


30 Jun – Dr. Pete

@Gary - It's tough to find that balance between being convinced you're always right and total, paralyzing subjectivism. I think that's why some people end up at the extremes - somehow, it's easier than fighting both ends to stay somewhere in the middle.

@Miriam - Thanks. I agree - meeting people and getting glimpses into their lives has been the most rewarding part of the process.